People start the relationship with so much hope but the excitement and sparks wane off, chemistry stops
working and marriage fails. The attraction one feels for a person is based on that person’s ability to
fulfill his/her specific desires. When these cravings are fulfilled, they mistake the initial feeling to
be divine and tend to believe they are soulmates. Our needs are time bound which means needs evolve over
time. Either over a period the fulfillment of that very need for which you found a person is extinguished
and you do not have that need anymore or you go through a self-improvement journey that heals you of these
needs. The need fulfillment was making you feel fulfilled and you had been attaching to that person to
ensure that supply. As we stop experiencing the need fulfillment, the attachment we felt for the partner
starts to wane off. The sparks die and the chemistry doesn’t work anymore. You start falling out of love
for the person. You are now in the relationship out of social compulsion or for the sake of children’s
wellbeing.
Evolution is a constant process we all go through, a phenomenon that people tend to overlook. Our
evolution is happening each day, as a result of our experiences, knowledge we acquire, our realisations
etc. This is evident from the fact that the way we thought as a teenager is not how we think as a married
person and our thought would be very different as a parent. We see our thinking pattern change with
changed economic situation, or a changed spiritual understanding or a changed recognition from the
society. We do not think the same all through our life.
Marriage or a couple relationship is a long game, a journey two people travel together their entire adult
life and it should not be based on spark or chemistry we feel initially as this is bound to change over
time. Our needs evolve and so does our partner’s. We are the witness to our partner’s evolution over time.
A true relationship is where we feel proud about our partner’s evolution and we be their support,
facilitating their evolution. That gives the true meaning to the partnership. Instead of finding a person
to fulfill our need, we must try to heal the needs within and lead a purposeful life that keeps us busy.
Taking and needing from someone should not be the foundation of a relationship. Instead be in a
relationship where both partners could share their life and be a support to each other in each other’s
meaningful life journey.
Find a person who aligns with your approach to life, disciplines, your practices, interests. For example,
if you are a fitness enthusiasts, find someone similar to go along with you. If you are a spiritual
person, find someone who understands the journey and who is a seeker themselves. If you are a
philanthropist, find someone who has an evolved consciousness like you, who sees themselves in others and
understands the concept of giving. If your consciousness is on the lower end and you identify yourself
with your body, would like to dress up, party, indulge in substances, explore carnal pleasures, flaunt
your life on internet and lives your life worried about other’s perception of you and is living to create
an image that meet others’ expectations, find a similar low life hoping that he/she doesn’t change over
time. It is a gamble.
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