You think you are doing your duty. Is it? Or is your Desire driving you?

You think you are doing your duty. Is it? Or is your Desire driving you?

Today, we see parents slogging all day, all night. Most parents are not doing it for them, but they are conditioned to consider it their duty to slog and make money and more money and more, just so that they get validated that they are doing their duty as a parent. The social conditioning has turned people into machines who are enslaved to their job, where job comes first before everything else. Why are they working the job like a machine? For the family, for their children! What does the family want? More time with them! This is the paradox everyone lives by. Whats funny here is that the system has been created such that the person never finds time to think and introspect about it. The matrix is created fool proof by the architects of the society in such a way that the enslavement continues, it gets passed on to the next generation as the norm and the world continues to work on these ideals.

The outcome? Children grow without the much needed security, care, warmth, guidance, love, connection, communication from their parents. They grow up as insecure, afraid, lacking confidence, addicts to whatever was their only dependence in the absence of the needed attention from their parents. The ideals they grow up with are indoctrinated into them by the artificial intelligence of the computers, strangers on the internet, friends who come from similar household with same problems.

Fundamental issue or the problem faced my man today is his lack of understanding of duty or dharmam. Greed and desire drives the world today. It originates from selfishness, the only thought of oneself, how to enrich oneself with resources, which translates to recognition of success. The social validation, of being recognised as success by the society is what drives people into doing everything they do today. Everything in life today is a competition. If the other person has it, I ought to have it to match up, level up or else I shall be considered a failure. This is applicable to everything from clothing to gadgets to cars to houses to experiences such as vacations, dining, events, socialising, the list is endless. People today do it not because they feel to do it or they feel gratified, but because they want the validation from the society. How do you get the validation? By flaunting it on the social media and letting the world know how happening your life is, how you have made it in life, how you have achieved what is considered as success. And for all this they need to make tonnes of money. In fancy terms it is called lifestyle choices. So to make money to get validated by the society one has to leave their loved ones and slog. The choice is made without them even realising what they have chosen.

Giving family the luxuries, giving children certain lifestyle is a part of the validation sought. It is one’s desire to be validated that makes one work like a machine. That desire is what disconnects him from his loved ones. That is the reason why today’s children grow up as insecure and misguided generation. It is not one’s dharmam to provide the most expensive schooling for the child. It is his desire to do so. It isn’t dharmam to provide luxurious lifestyle for the children, it is his desire. It isn’t dharmam to visit the most expensive super specialty hospital for a small health inconvenience. It is for validation that you are being the best spouse, parent, child, conforming to the norms set by the society.

For you to understand this, take time for yourself to understand the difference between dharmam and desire. Understand that your child needs the wisdom that equips him to face the challenges of the world. It is your dharmam to provide him that. But without realising that, you are spending your time chasing your desires. It is not your fault that you have been conditioned this way. It sure is your fault that you do not wake up to realise it. Work for material prosperity while you are doing your work in raising your level of consciousness.